Alright, to kick off the blog we're going to focus on the most important aspect when it comes to picking up women.  Lets get started.

For those of you who are bewildered when it comes to the subject of picking up and seducing girls I have some very good news for you - there is one thing, that if focused on correctly, will considerably improve your success with women.
While there are many aspects when it comes to women and dating, its often difficult to find a starting point.  For most guys, approaching is the first logical step.  Guys want to know exactly what to say in order to intrigue women and get their attention.  Attraction is the next step on the to know list.  There's a common theme here, are you seeing it?  They want lines and techniques.  However, what they will soon find out is routines and lines won't solve their problem.

I am about to tell you the secret to getting more women in your life: your frame of mind.  

Unforunately, if that was a letdown for you, you might not be ready yet.  You will be eventually, but until you fully realize that it’s who you are that attracts women and not just lines and techniques, you will not see the level of success you are capable of.

The first mental change we need to make is about being good enough.  Most men don’t feel they're good enough. 

Beautiful women appear to be completely out of their league.  Get this balogna out of you mind right now.
It's difficult at times, but I try and view everyone as equal.  I will actually picture myself above everyone else if I need a bost in confidence.  Is it egotistical?  Perhaps, but I don't treat other people badly because of it and it's able to give me a boost in confidence and energy.  To do this I go over in my head all the positive qualities about myself.  For example, in my head I may list: my work, friends, perspective on life, intelligence, future goals, and current skills - just to name a couple things.  Reminding me of who I am can give me a heightened mental state if I start doubting myself at any point.

Next we look at the idea that even guys who are great with women don't succeed every time.  For some strange reason I will encounter guys that think men that are good with women don't get rejected - I am here to tell you that is completely wrong.  These guys fail as much and sometimes more than your average joe.  Why?  Because they put themselves out there.  They accept the fact that there is nothing to lose and everything to gain when approaching women and meeting new people.  Lack of success is not considered failure, but a learning experience.

Know this by itself is enough to get guys over the hump they're stuck on.  My question for you now is, do you think these guys care?  After a while interactions are not taken to heart as anything other than a feedback.  You’re not scared or nervous, you’re excited about the people you could meet and the relationships you could form.

The final topic I want to touch on is in regards to identity.  Things are viewed differently when you have a strong identity.  You will be grounded in your beliefs and have a clear idea of what you’ll tolerate and what you won’t.  When it comes to picking up and attracting women this is important.  Many men will let girls walk all over them.  If you are one of the guys who bend over backwards to accommodate women you need to stop.  If you stop doing this you will notice a change in how people act around you.  Initial resistance may be encountered at first, but eventually people will realize that you aren't a push over.  

I want you to take a second and really think about where the foundation of success lies when it comes to attracting women.  You will quickly realize it’s not in a magic line or a special routines.  It all stems from your confidence and the mindset you posses.

This is just the start when it comes to picking up women, stay tuned.

Nicholas